October 13, 2017
Photo by Ahmed Carter on Unsplash
Do you have a good appreciation of your own strengths and capabilities?
Do you feel in control of your own destiny?
Are you self-confident enough to understand your personal power and to use it to accomplish what you want with it?
Be clear on who they are, what they want, and how to get it
Have a strong presence even in difficult situations
Seem to get what they want – but not at the expense of others
Believe that they are in control and can get the outcomes they desire
Have purpose, direction, and goals in life
Accept the few aspects of their lives that are out of their immediate control
Understand their worth not in material terms but from the inside out
Appear successful but do not measure their own success on purely professional terms - promotions, job titles, etc.
Value creativity and personal achievement more than outward displays of success
Seem to be able to make things happen when others are stuck in a corner
Are not scared to express views that are against the ‘common flow’ of ideas about a topic
Do things because they feel they’re right – not just because others do them
Are confident in their decision-making, even when the pressure is on
Censoring yourself by not expressing views that may be deemed as unpopular
Avoiding confrontations rather than speaking what’s on your mind
Avoiding pressure situations because of lack of confidence in your own decision-making
Rarely questioning people in positions of authority
Doubting your own judgement frequently
Scraping the surface of problems and concerns and not getting to the root causes
Shutting yourself off to new experiences and avoiding new challenges
Having trouble in backing up your thoughts, ideas, or opinions
Doubting your own ability
Feeling helpless – like a victim
Experiencing difficulty in commanding respect from others
Doing things because others do them – even if they seem wrong
Create time for positive self-reflection – focus on what you’ve achieved so far and what you’re good at. Revisit situations where you have been successful and analyse how you got there and how it made you feel?
Chase out negative thoughts – learn to recognise when negative, self-defeating talk starts – and nip it in the bud with some positive thinking techniques.
Set goals – consider what you want to achieve and this will give you some targets to aim for; break them up into smaller goals and then every little ‘success story’ will help you see your achievements positively and build more confidence.
Make commitments and keep them – the more you stick to your ‘plan’ the more confident you will become on the road ahead. When you make a commitment, stick to it.
Give yourself a physical makeover – you may want to herald the new ‘you’ with a new look. Although personal power works from the inside out, a little focus on your physical appearance from time to time doesn’t hurt.