December 6, 2017
How do you react under such circumstances?
How do you respond to bad news?
At one point in my business life I would experience the emotional and psychological equivalent of jumping into hyperspace from a cruising start.
From feeling congruent and resourceful, I could easily free fall into feeling vulnerable and timid.
Within seconds I could go from feeling like Richard Branson on top of the world, , and a minute later, with just one piece of bad news, be reduced to a quivering wreck.
All ambitions, goals and aspirations suddenly disappeared into the ether, and were rapidly replaced by dramatic fantasies of failure, shame, reputational ruin and bankruptcy.
Why does this happen?
What is this extreme swing between two such distinct states of mind?
When this happens - when the bad news arrives - psychologically we tend to refer back to a previous experience and assume that this new experience will be as bad or worse than the historic one.
Often we are preparing ourselves for the worst and while that can be a useful strategy it is often harmful when danger is taken out of context.
Physically our bodies experience this state and assume that we are in immediate danger and react accordingly, with body chemistry increasing the pulse rate, skin sweating profusely, dry mouth, and body trembling.
Cortisol and adrenalin are released into the blood.
The problem is that the chemical reaction was designed to assist us in times of physical danger and not necessarily as a response to a cranky email from a client who has got out of bed the wrong side that morning.
How can you manage such responses?
I have found the following to be really effective:
They will be able to empathise with you and possibly even share their strategies that they employed to overcome their challenges
Stress management techniques such as NLP and TFT have worked incredibly well for me and are definitely worth exploring
Regular meditation (do not just use it when you need it – that is not how it works)