Ego says “Once everything is in place, I’ll feel peace.
Spirit says, “Find your peace, and everything will fall into place”.
Why do so many of us long for a peaceful life and yet are living a chaotic life?
Because we created the chaotic life we live and we are in control of our creation.
We didn’t create peace so therefore we feel out of control choosing a peaceful life.
How many times have we hit burnout because of ‘trying’ too hard to please everyone simply for a ‘quiet life’?
We are deluded to think that if everyone else is happy and content, that we will also feel happy and content and we can then live in peace.
Or worse still, we ignore the needs of others and ourselves and suppress any feelings we have for choosing to create a peaceful life.
We are conditioned to believe that only a special few get to live a peaceful life and that we are lucky if we get anywhere close.
Our programming is to ‘strive’.
Get an education so you have the best chance for a good job.
Settle down in your own home and have a family like the majority do.
Cram your lives full of friends, social events and material things so you fit in to avoid criticism and judgement.
This is what is expected of us and what we are taught a happy and peaceful life is all about.
I believe it couldn’t be further from our truth.
Striving in any direction only keeps us off track and destined for more striving.
It also keeps us playing a role of pretending and keeping up appearances, creating layer upon layer that, in the end, only acts as a veneer.
A veneer that acts as a barrier of who we really are and a veneer we can hide behind for protection.
‘I can’t reveal my inner most thoughts and feelings to the outside world.
I would seem like an alien to others and I would set myself up to be ridiculed for being weak and different.
I would be alone, and the thought of that is too much to bear’.
So, if striving keeps us in a place of struggle and longing for more, how do we achieve the opposite for harmony and living in the now?
Firstly, I believe that it’s essential where we place our focus.
When choosing to see the beauty in the world and in others, as well as ourselves, we will attract more of the same.
Conversely, choosing to focus on pain and what is wrong with others, ourselves and the world, also attracts more of the same.
It doesn’t mean that by choosing to focus on beauty, appreciation and what is lovely with the world, we will avoid struggle, pain or negativity and our lives are a breeze, it simply means we give ourselves the best chance to create a life of our choice by aligning ourselves with LOVE.
Secondly, and more importantly, I believe we need to accept that life is, and always will be, made up of opposites.
Chaos and harmony.
Love and fear.
Good and bad.
Light and dark.
Only when we fool ourselves that the shiny veneer will hide all the chaos and only show off the harmony, will daily life be a struggle.
The harder we try in that struggle, the more out of control we will feel, when the very thing we fear the most (the courage to be vulnerable and express our inner-most thoughts, fears and feelings) is exactly what will free us to live the peaceful and fulfilling life we all crave.
Our greatest fear is letting go of all physical control and surrendering to the loving, infinite intelligence that turns the world, grows the grass and beats our hearts.
‘Surely, I have a better idea of what my best life looks like?
And why should I hand over the controls to an invisible, infinite intelligence?’
“You believe in insanity because you created it, you do not believe in LOVE because you did not” A Course in Miracles
We are here on planet earth in a visible, limited and physical body to experience our most joyous, loving and peaceful life.
We can only experience that life if we work in harmony with the invisible, unlimited, infinite intelligence as it knows all there is to know, what our greatest life looks like and how to live that life now.
Opening ourselves up to being guided by love rather than our own fears is to live powered by peace.
It is initially daunting and can seem alien to us, however, surely it is the only way if it’s the opposite of ‘striving’, as we know it.
Choosing to let go of the reigns, and listen to our hearts through meditation, allowing ourselves to experience pure joy, takes courage, a willingness and daily practice, so don’t be alarmed if you find it tricky and unnerving in the beginning.
You know you’re getting it right and it’s working well when you feel good.
When you feel not so good, ask yourself why and listen to what comes up, as it is likely to be fear-based and an old repetitive pattern of thinking.
In these answers lies the reason you are hiding and pretending unnecessarily.
Recognise that these fears are not you and they are not real.
They are merely there to keep you under control and striving rather than living your life powered by peace.
“Peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work.
It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.” Unknown