Do you constantly put your success down to good luck or being in the right place at the right time?
Are you lying awake at night worrying that it’s only a matter of time until you’re ‘found out’ at work? If so then you’re not alone, in fact you’re in great company.
Imposter Syndrome – a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success
This is surprisingly common amongst high achievers, with almost 70% of us feeling like a fraud at one time or another during our lifetime.
So as a highly qualified commercial skills trainer and coach who passionately believes that hard work and a confident mind-set supercharges success, I wanted to share my top tips to help you banish Imposter Syndrome once and for all and make 2018 your best year yet.
Understand What Really Makes You Tick
First things first, you need to take the time to understand your personal skills and areas for development. As Aristotle so wisely said, “knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” so be mindful and focus on the moment.
By recognising your own emotions and motivations, you can take positive steps to conquer self-doubt when it strikes.
For example, if the thought of giving a presentation leaves you quaking in your boots, make a plan to improve your public speaking skills by rehearsing with colleagues or better still sign up to a training workshop.
Silence Your Inner Gremlin
We’re often our own worst enemies – talking ourselves out of opportunities before we’ve even begun. So, the next time you hear your inner gremlin – that negative voice inside your head – shouting in your ear, remember to turn the volume down.
Focus, instead, on what’s great about you, the company you work for and your relationships with your customers and colleagues. By reminding yourself of your strengths and achievements you will reap the rewards of increased confidence and improved performance.
Move Out Of Your Comfort Zone
When your self-esteem takes a tumble, it becomes even harder to move out of your comfort zone. It’s called a comfort zone for a reason – it’s the place where you feel cosy and secure.
However, it can also lead to negative emotions as it can cause you to shy away from new opportunities. It is only by pushing your limits and moving into your stretch zone that you will learn and develop.
So face your fears and write a list of your main concerns and worries – e.g. ‘they’re never going to promote me” and then think of a counter argument.
Visualise what success looks like – whether it’s seeing your new title on a business card or signing your name on a contract with a customer.
By picturing what good looks like you are more likely to develop a winning mind-set that will set you apart from the masses.
Don’t Be A Perfectionist
It’s not surprising that high achievers, in particular, suffer with Imposter Syndrome at some point during their career. Setting exceptionally high standards, can ultimately lead to disappointment and demotivation.
So give yourself permission to make mistakes.
Remind yourself that good is good enough and try not to judge yourself harsher than you judge others. When someone gives you a compliment accept it graciously.
Be A Glass Half Full Person
As Winston Churchill said, “a pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity, a optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
Optimism is undoubtedly one of the biggest predictors of success in life. By avoiding black and white thinking and finding shades of grey, you are more likely to see the positives in a situation and achieve your desired outcome.
As the saying goes, when the going gets tough, the tough get going – so draw on your resilience by taking the learnings from any setbacks and moving forwards – remember you are here to win the war, not the battle.
Finally, the next time you start feeling like a fraud, adopt a positive outlook and believe in your own abilities.
By standing tall and being proud of your achievements, you will kick-start 2018 with a winning mind-set that helps you stand out from the competition.