August 18, 2017
Can you predict how you will react in most situations?
Are you able to recognise the ‘triggers’ that raise particular feelings, emotions, and moods?
And do you manage these emotions to bring about positive outcomes?
Or do you frequently surprise yourself?
Do emotions sometimes get the better of you and lead to rash behaviour that negatively impacts both you and those around you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to the first questions above, you are already showing strong signs of emotional intelligence; if you answered ‘yes’ to the second questions, read on to learn some simple ways to work on your emotional self-awareness and to start bringing about better results in your life.
Emotional intelligence or EQ (emotional quotient) is defined as the following:
(Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer, 1997)
While IQ (intelligence quotient) was traditionally seen as an indicator of one’s potential for ‘success’ in life, many successful people were actually observed to fare rather poorly with IQ; but they displayed high emotional intelligence.
This has led to the spotlight being directed on EQ in recent years, with much conjecture on how it affects all aspects of life: personal, professional, and social.
Emotional self-awareness is often seen as the first ‘pillar’ of emotional intelligence. High awareness of your own emotions, while not completely defining EQ on its own, is a strong indicator of it.
It means that you notice your feelings, emotions, and ‘gut-level’ instincts or reactions; you are able to recognise their effects on your mind and body; you actively use your feelings as a valuable source of insight and information about yourself, others, and the situations around you.
How do you recognise this quality in day-to-day life with the people you meet? Usually, high emotional self-awareness is seen in people who:
Think of the people you look up to: maybe a favourite teacher, boss, or other leader who has made a big impression on you. It is likely that he or she was emotionally self-aware and exuded many of the admirable qualities listed above.
If you frustrate yourself sometimes by not being able to reach such emotional stability, control, and self-awareness, what can you do about improving this aspect of your being?
One of the great ‘pluses’ of emotional intelligence is that most aspects of it can be worked on and improved.
Everybody has the ability to be more aware of their emotions, if they so desire. You can start to raise your level of emotional self-awareness by:
Being more self-aware opens many ‘doors’ to a more fulfilling life with stronger relationships. It is one of the keys to emotional intelligence and a great starting point for anyone looking to work on self-development.